Why does a child need a favorite toy?
Do you remember your favorite toy that you didn’t want to part with as a child and which may still be kept with you or your parents? Psychologists believe that every baby should have a favorite toy. Its presence indicates the normal development of the child.
Almost all kids have their favorite toys. Toys can even carry a blanket, towel or pacifier.
These toys are designed to replace mom if she went to work or when she is away on business. In addition, they help the baby to separate and it is easier to transfer the awareness of the fact that he and his mother are not one. A child, when mom is not at home, mom transfers feelings for her to the toy, this helps him cope with the temporary separation and self-awareness as a separate person.
Some parents begin to worry, seeing that the child does not leave his beloved teddy bear or doll for a minute. Until about 4 years, this is considered the norm, as well as the fact that a child can cry inconsolably when he loses a toy. By the age of 2-4, the child is no longer so violently reacting to his favorite toy. Usually at this age, children take her to bed, go to bed or cuddle when they are anxious or sad.
Parents should not be disturbed by the fact that sometimes a child is cruel with a toy. It only says that he knows how to express his emotions symbolically, that is, he is angry with his mother, but does not want to hurt her, so he “falls” to a bear or other favorite.
When to watch out
Parents need to be wary or even resort to the help of a psychologist if the child as a favorite toy chose an object that is not even remotely similar to a person: a plug, a cover, a phone. This behavior is common in children with autistic traits.
If a child by the age of 6-7 does not want to part with his favorite toy for a minute, this also signals problems.
If the child constantly carries with him a bunch of toys, it is also worth being wary. This indicates the high anxiety of the child, and that he does not feel protected.
If the child does not have a favorite toy
It happens that a child does not have a favorite toy because his mother devotes all his time to him. This is the mistake of many mothers who have a first child. Moms need to find a balance between the needs of the child and his interests.
You can’t sacrifice your sleep, food for the sake of the child, you can’t endure pain if it hurts you. All this causes anger and anger in you, which you accumulate and risk once pouring onto the child. It’s better to speak your feelings so that he can understand how you feel and why. You can also say what you understand how your child feels at that moment.
“You want me to play with you, but now I'm eating. Wait a bit, I will finish, and we will play. I understand that you are angry, but for now, you can play with your favorite teddy bear, and I will join you a little later. ”
“I see that you are angry, but you can’t beat me! You can throw your rage on the pillow and beat it. ”
“I’m tired and can’t carry you all the time on the arms and swing you. Let me put you and the bear, hug you and tell a fairy tale about a boy who had a wonderful teddy bear. ”
How toys can help educate
Since the toy is designed to help the baby in difficult situations, use its help when laying the baby to sleep or when trying to feed him. Let your favorite toy listen with him to a lullaby or see what appetite he eats!
A toy can help a baby feel more relaxed about the appearance of a brother or sister, or even moving to another city or divorcing parents. Admission to the kindergarten is also stressful for the child, so it is good if your favorite toy will accompany him.
Toys also help children in learning. Have you ever watched a child, returning from developing activities, seated his toys and begins to tell them everything he learned? You can use the help of your favorite toy, if you yourself want to teach a child something, tell him about the seasons, days of the week, etc. not on your own behalf, but on behalf of a teddy bear or other teddy friend. So the baby will quickly accept the new information and remember it for a long time.